Q4. How do you know when you love that person?

08:32:00 Kikoprincess 0 Comments

Honestly, if I had the answer to this question, I would be unbelievable rich and happy. I would be a "master" therapist charging astronomical amounts of money because I would be able to tell clients essentially what they need. When I googled this phrase 902,000,000 results (0.21 seconds). 

This is what popular media suggests
- When you can't help but think about that person all the time
- When you are willing to give up everything for that person
- You smile for no reason at all and everything seems brighter
- You miss them when they are not around
- When they are around your heart is beating a million beats a minute

Have I ever felt this way? Of course! Is it because I love that person?

The above symptoms are symptoms of infatuation. Sure, this syndrome is a component of the early stages of love. According to Dr Neder, and various other sources, this stage is short lived. This stage is marked with uncertainty about whether it will work out, lack of trust in the other person.

There are other stages of love including Bonding (where you plan aspects of your life around the person) and the familiar stage (where your lives become intertwined).

Loving a person is not a destination, it's a process that grows each day. It's a maturation of friendship, a development of patience, trust, understanding, hope.