Picking and choosing
I used to think that it was the fruitS of the spirit, and we can be blessed with some and not others.
BUT the bible clearly says it's the FRUIT (not plural). So we should aim to develop ALL of the elements of the fruit.
Actually, I find that I am so flawed that I need to build ALL of these from scratch. In particular, I need to learn gentleness, self-control and joy.
Galatians 5:22-23
New International Version (NIV)
22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.