getting over it- all done

17:07:00 Karen Li 0 Comments


I'd say this 5+year long journey is a little bit like a bad marriage. At first I was so in love, I would live and breathe articles. I would tell whoever I could as much as I could about my studies. Then the reality started to creep up on me. It was the daily abuse of a controlling relationship- felt guilty going out with friends, watching tv, but the more I felt guilty, the more I wanted to do these things. It made me depressed and physically ill to be in such a one-sided relationship- all give give give. And now? Today marks a new chapter in the relationship- soon to be ex-relationship. Handed in the papers today, awaiting feedback to see if we can have a clean break up. 

THANKS to everyone who believed in me, even when I lost faith. And thanks to an amazing heavenly father who has taught me to humble myself.

In celebration of this- I have finally made my status- "single" hoping that the PhD doesn't creep it's way back into my life. 

How to get over a terrible divorce.

Step 1. Detox.


Chuck out things that would remind me of it...
Just a small portion of the many papers that can finally leave my bedroom...
I'd say this 5+year long journey is a little bit like a bad marriage. At first I was so in love, I would live and breathe articles. I would tell whoever I could as much as I could about my studies. Then the reality started to creep up on me. It was the daily abuse of a controlling relationship- felt guilty going out with friends, watching tv, but the more I felt guilty, the more I wanted to do these things. It made me depressed and physically ill to be in such a one-sided relationship- all give give give. And now? Today marks a new chapter in the relationship- soon to be ex-relationship. Handed in the papers today, awaiting feedback to see if we can have a clean break up. 

THANKS to everyone who believed in me, even when I lost faith. And thanks to an amazing heavenly father who has taught me to humble myself. 

How to get over a terrible divorce. 

Step 1. Detox. 
Just a small portion of the many papers that can finally leave my bedroom...




















Step 2. Balance the good and bad memories.  

I am incredibly thankful for the amazing opportunities I've had over the past 5 years. Firstly, I was given the opportunity to work with Schoolies in a series of focus group interviews, and find out how they really felt like.

Incredibly blessed to have the opportunity to share my passions in psychology with many psychology students through lecturing and tutoring. And having such a wonderful bunch of coworkers who treated me as a peer.

Incredibly blessed for opportunities to work with incredibly talented researches in Melbourne and Seattle. The opportunities to travel, live and explore these places has been absolutely inforgettable. The people I have met have changed the person I am today. The places I have been can be revisited with a close of an eye.

Thankful for the not so great experiences too. Difficulties with people, difficulties with computers, difficulties with data. All made me a stronger person, but at the same time, made me truly humble myself. 

Step 3. Link in with positive supports. 

It's been fantastic to call friends and family to share with them the joy that I am feeling, and having them reassure me the future will be brighter.

Step 4. Have a fresh start

Starting another project -- stay tuned.

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