Showing your love to me

21:02:00 Karen Li 0 Comments

How can I show support to you? Sometimes we feel like we can't ask someone else to support you in a specific way. Who said we can't? Of course, when it's  demanded, there can be negative consequences, but when we genuinely need something, and we tell people that this is what we prefer, then what is the harm in that? 

Theoretically it sounds simple, but the implementation is often more difficult. How do we open our mouths and say that we need the other person to just say that they care about you? Or just tell you that you matter? How do we let our friends know that we just need a hug? How do we let our parents know that we just need them to listen, not to judge or to try to solve the problem. It takes a bit of courage. 

There are times though, when we just don't feel quite right, and we don't know what we need. And that is an perfect opportunity to pray about it... 

In the same way, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groans that words cannot express.Romans 8:26 

From my other blog "Reading and writing about dysfunctional couple relationships can be a drain. Often we find that couples just can't find an appropriate way to communicate their mutual care and affection or the way their partner expresses it is not received in the way it was intended. Chapman talks about the 5 love languages.

Apparently my ranking is:
- Quality time
- Words of affirmation
- Acts of service
- Receiving gifts
- Physical touch

It feels as if I am a child. Children too require high quality time. That is completely undivided attention. Lately, we have been spending more time having family meals away from tv, computers, etc. This undivided attention together has undoubtedly improved our family relationship. In fact, research shows that family dinners together and other regular family activities together are protective against a whole range of high risk behaviours (drinking alcohol, deviant acts, etc).

Love languages are not just amongst family members, but a good understanding of the love languages your friends and partners have are also important. God asks us to love him with our all in all (heart, mind soul and strength) but the second commandment is to love your neighbours as yourself. So, discover what other people's love languages are and show them that you care for them in a way that they can receive with love."

So until next time, even if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can move mountains :)

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